Far too many of us realise how difficult it can be to find ourselves in a broken marriage. Sometimes, it can be the hardest thing to swallow our pride but when we do so for the benefit of our children, good things can happen. Take Billy Flynn for example. He is divorced with 2 sons and he recently stood beside those children and celebrated his ex-wife’s birthday. It has gone viral.
Flynn admits that it can be difficult to have a relationship with your ex-spouse but if he is able to do it, he thinks anyone can do it. In many cases, those who are divorced tend to say nasty things about their ex in front of the children. Flynn knows that his boys are paying attention to his actions so he chose to respond in a better way.
Flynn wanted to share the reason why he was buying gifts for his ex-wife’s birthday, so he posted it on Facebook. He even helped his boys fix their mum breakfast.
He doesn’t like that people consider his actions to be weak, so he explained that they weren’t really meant for his ex.
“It’s my ex-wife’s birthday today, so I got up early and brought flowers and cards and a gift over for the kids to give her and helped them make her breakfast. Per usual someone asked me why the hell I still do things for her all the time. This annoys me. So ima break it down for you all.
“I’m raising two little men. The example I set for how I treat their mum is going to significantly shape how they see and treat women and affect their perception of relationships. I think even more so in my case because we are divorced. So if you aren’t modeling good relationship behavior for your kids, get your [stuff] together. I don’t care if she’s a [jerk]. Rise above it and be an example. This is bigger than you.”
“Raise good men. Raise strong women. Please. The world needs them, now more than ever.”
“I’m raising two little men,” Flynn wrote in part. “The example I set for how I treat their mum is going to significantly shape how they see and treat women and affect their perception of relationships.”
Flynn wanted his readers to focus on raising healthy and strong children.
“Divorce is hard and I think we all do and say some things that really aren’t our best selves,” Flynn explained. “But we always put the kids first, and honestly, I think that focus helped us repair our relationship into one of mutual respect over time, and our kids win as a result.”
“Kids want to care for their parents by nature, but they can’t do it alone. It’s our job to facilitate that,” Flynn stated. “So even if your ex is a terrible person in your eyes, you need to set it aside and realise your kids love this person. Seeing you mistreat someone they love is traumatic, whether you want to own it or not.”
“I think you’ll be surprised to find that your mutual focus on the kids will actually benefit your post-divorce relationship because it takes the spotlight off your individual hurts and anger and resentment,” he explained.
It seems that he has the best attitude toward his ex-wife.
Via: Liftable
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